When others ask us to compromise in some way for the relationship, it’s important to check in with ourselves and ask if this compromise is in direct conflict with our genuine selves, says Howard. If it is, then maybe that’s not the right match. “Sometimes the compromise is a sign this isn’t the relationship for you, like if the compromise takes away from being who you are. A lot of times people want to try to force a relationship when there are so many signs that this person isn’t really compatible with them. It shouldn’t be that difficult for your partner to accept you for who you are.”