THANK GOD IT'S FRIDAY
BC PIRES
KATHRYN STOLLMEYER WIGHT died last week and no other human being in my direct or indirect experience has ever been more widely and deeply loved.
Forget David Bowie, Black Stalin, Prince, Nelson Mandela, Robin Williams, Princess Diana your granny and all the popes. Only Bob Marley and John Lennon provoked an outpouring of love and appreciation from as widespread a cross-section of people as Kathryn Stollmeyer Wight.
And Kath never wrote Imagine or Is This Love.
Since she slipped away from us last week Thursday, our newspapers and social media have been filled with stories about a woman with almost no public profile. She once managed one minor politician's election campaign but otherwise, she was a genuine nobody.
And yet Newsday has continuously refreshed its story about her passing. Not one person has said something negative about her (although I learned long ago never to read any 'Comments' section: that is where serial murderers go to start honing their psychopathic chops before they move on to torturing small animals).
I say she slipped away, but her death was far from gentle: pulmonary fibrosis attacks the lungs like a Putin convicted murderer mercenary attacks a Ukrainian civilian. It is an extremely painful way to go.
Five years ago, Kathryn Stollmeyer Wight was given two years to live, and for too much of her last five years, she literally gasped for breath. In her final weeks, her only indispensable fashion accessory was the oxygen tank that made her daylong scramble for breath not easier, but marginally less laborious.
Unless you have felt the panic rising in your chest because you're not sure if the breath you're taking will be your last, you can't appreciate the mental suffering involved.
And, in between those frightening gasps for the very breath of life, her eyes would twinkle and Kath would overcome her coughing fit and come up with something hilarious to say.
Die laughing. That could be her epitaph.
She was married to one of my oldest and truest friends, Gregory Wight (the second person ever to appear in my personality-based feature, Trini to the Bone, in Newsday every Monday). In their last few years as a couple, sad as the situation was, you'd consider yourself lucky to have witnessed the blossoming of a lifelong romance into a fully-fledged, eyes-wide-open love in the face of imminent death.
Every time I saw them during her certain passage into the grave, my heart broke for Gregors. The last year or so must have been like a cruelly extended childbirth labour for Gregory Wight, except there was no newborn at its end, only the death of the most central figure in his life.
Kath also left behind her three adult children, son-in-law and granddaughter as her direct family and, it seems, half of TT as her indirect one.
And this is why I loved Kathy Wight.
She personifies, for me, the notion behind every word I've
